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I have (I think everyone probably has, actually) so I can definitely relate to what you’re going through right now.

I think the key to “dealing” with it is to find the balance between being sensitive to their feelings and being brutally honest. If you are completely uninterested in them and you’re quite sure that won’t change in the foreseeable future, DO NOT leave things open ended. Make sure they know exactly where they stand with you.

Approach this situation like you would ripping off a band-aid: You can either rip it off in one sitting by being clear and direct, or you can rip it off centimeter by centimeter over a period of weeks/months/years by avoiding the issue and being vague and unsure with your answers. Its not fair to you or the other person to do that if you know the answer is really “no” but you can’t be bold enough to say it.

Having said that, if you get a chance to do some thinking before responding to their declaration of feelings, you should really make sure you think this through. I don’t know what your friend is like or how close you two are, but if they’re really persistent, they may ask questions you won’t have answers for when you tell them no, so try to be prepared for that. Do some introspection. Ask yourself questions. Do you think you could ever like them in the future? What would make you change your mind, if anything? … Things like that.

Depending on how close you are to the person, you want to make sure you handle this in such a way that it doesn’t damage the relationship. Even if you feel like they “ruined everything” by liking you, just look at it this way: many friendships with the opposite sex (or same sex, if you’re so inclined) always have an unspoken pink elephant because the possibility of a relationship is never discussed. You guys are going to discuss it. Ultimately, if you’re both mature about this, this should make your friendship clearer, more comfortable and stronger in the long run.

Oh yes, and one last thing: remember the golden rule. Let them down the same way you’d want to be let down if you were in their shoes. (Unless you’re heartless or have masochistic tendencies, in which case, ignore that last piece of advice .. hehe)

Good luck! :)

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If you want to exclude social media sites, then as of lately, RBNS (http://rebloggingns.wordpress.com/), The Kitchn (http://www.thekitchn.com/) and Thought Questions (http://thoughtquestions.com/) … The top 3 in this category changes regularly though. :)

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What are you majoring in college right now?

Short answer: nothing yet.
Long answer: Right now I’m taking a couple general courses that either 1) really interest me, or 2) will be required/useful regardless of what i settle on until I decide what I want to major in. The opportunities are endless, and let me tell you, that sucks. My toes are curled on the edge of the world and I can’t decide where to jump. These days, I swerve dangerously between a) something in writing - editing, publishing, maybe journalism, b) something in the medical/science end of the spectrum - nursing or research, for example, c) dropping out of school entirely to become self-employed fulltime. There is a fourth option, which is becoming a professional golddigger - but alas, last time I checked, there is a disappointing lack of university-level instruction in this field. :(

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which part of ur body do u like hte most and why? now same question, except u can only pick from boobs, bum and waist

Sunny, your fobby English totally gave you away. :D (And for the record… I give this question a B for creepiness. Knowing you, you could have definitely gone creepier.)

To answer your question… my waist. Because I don’t normally wear fitted tops, I don’t think anyone ever notices my waist (unlike the other two, which are more obvious on any female) … but I like my waist the most out of those three because I think its more feminine and understated, in a more classical way, than nice boobs or bum. Happy? :P

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Are you multi-lingual, Chanel? I’m aware that you eloquently speak English (obviously) and I’m sure French (hey! You’re Canadian! Immersion schools!), but aside from those, do you speak any other dialects?

Aw, thanks. :) … Actually, I don’t really speak French anymore. I used to, back when I went to a French immersion school, but a couple years after I left I pretty much forgot it. I can still understand and read it to some degree (more so on the reading part) … but for the most part, I’m probably no better off than someone who took it for a year or two in an English-speaking high school. :P I am planning to take French in college next semester though, so that may change soon!

As for any other languages - my mother speaks Hindi, so I can understand it pretty well, but I can’t really speak it. Aside from my late grandmother trying to teach me a couple words when I was young, no one has ever really taught me to understand Hindi - I just picked it up from years and years of being a curious snoop. :)

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What is your favourite part of your relationship with God?

The fact that I can always, always count on him. He never changes, and even in times when I wasn’t as tight with him (it happens; relationships are relationships) he has never failed to walk by my side, even if I looked right through him and acted as if he wasn’t there.

I like to think of my relationship with him like this: He lets me live my life and make my own choices, even if they don’t lead me in the right path. He steps in when necessary, and always when I ask him to. He lets me make my own mistakes so I can learn from them, because he knows I won’t take other people’s experiences and substitute them for my own. When I ask him for advice or wisdom, he always finds a way to give it to me. He’s there by my side when I need him and when I don’t. I don’t talk to him nearly as much as I should, but he’s patient. He’ll wait for me no matter what.

No human relationship can ever compare to the one a person has with their creator. I don’t have to explain myself, because he knows everything I could ever say before I even say it. I can be completely honest with him - tell him I don’t trust him, that i love him, or even that I have doubts - and he just smiles and finds a way to show me something that just simply knock my socks off and leaves me grasping for words. I can’t even begin to describe what it’s like to experience something you prayed for - something impossible, something beyond coincidence or human ability - and realize that he did that, just for you.

But most of all, he’s there. Always there. People come and go. Things come and go. Situations come and go. But he’s still there - always there - waiting. In the darkest moments of my life, when every human connection I’ve had has failed to be there for me (and probably couldn’t have helped even if they were), he was there. And that has made all the difference.

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